China love

   ” I’m not really the dating type… I spent most of my youth trying to figure out what the hell was wrong with me and why was I not like my classmates who all fell in love, multiple times, all around me. So my personal experiences in the “dating scene” back in China was highly abnormal and couldn’t be used as an example of anything.

But I did read a lot, and I listened to my friends talking about their experiences. And to be honest, I’m happy that I didn’t enter the Chinese dating scene, so to speak. Chinese dating culture is so toxic I wouldn’t want to touch it with a 10 foot pole.
One thing about Chinese culture is our obsession of female weight. I’m sure Japanese people and Korean people probably know what I’m talking about. There’s tremendous pressure for women to be underweight. I’m not talking about healthy weight, I’m talking about dangerously underweight.
A while back, the so-called A4 waist became trendy:
A4 waist means your waist shouldn’t be larger than a piece of A4 paper held vertically.
And before that I’ve heard the saying that if you’re over 50 kilogram (about 110 lbs), you should be ashamed, and you don’t deserve to be a woman.
Growing up in this environment, for the longest time, I thought I didn’t have a relationship because I was too fat (I was a size 6). And fat people don’t deserve happiness.
Men would openly talk about women’s weight, and laugh at “fat” woman.
And on top of that, there’s the ageism. Women are under tremendous pressure to get married before 25, and then before 30. If you aren’t married before 30, there must be something wrong with you. There’s the famous saying “women are like Christmas gifts, they lose value after 25.”
And on top of the ageism, there’s the anti-intellectualism. The famous saying would be “there’re three types of people: male, female and female PhD”, meaning women pursuing higher education and academia career are not women. They had lost their femininity. And no man would want to date a woman who is smarter and more capable than him.
So, in China, the dating culture is: Women are at their highest value if she’s stupid, less educated, skinny, and under 25. Women’s value is reduced if she’s older than 25, weighs more than 110 lbs, has a master’s degree or above, and is career driven.
No… I wouldn’t want to live in this kind of environment. I wouldn’t want to walk into a clothing store and be told “we don’t carry your size” (US size 8).”
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Peace in relationships startups are different, one opinion

   ” Do you want to get hurt real bad?

Do you want lots of painful sleepless nights?
Do you want to fall for someone and find they are not interested, and feel your heart has been ripped from inside you, stamped on a thousand times?
Then here’s what you do…
Avoid looking for signals.
Show intent from day one.
I didn’t say it won’t sting when you get rejected and not because women opinion of you reveals who you are.
It hurts because we are conditioned early on to seek validation, acceptance, approval like a drug. It stings but you will live to approach other women.
Signals can mean many things..
  1. She might be nervous
  2. She might feel threatened
  3. She might feel uncomfortable
  4. She might be an attention seeker
  5. She might flirt to test if she still got it to attract a man without intention of dating him
  6. She might flirt for fun
  7. She might flirt out of boredom
  8. She might be flirting to reveal status to get the attention of a different guy
  9. She might be showing off to her friend
People give off signals all day long and much of it is never about being interested in someone.
An experienced man will know this..
  • A number is not a date. A woman can give a number to avoid the awkwardiness or conflict of saying no.
  • A conversation, a smile, is not a sign she likes you in a romantic way.
  • The eye contact, and extra glances is not a sign of interest but can be a sign of feeling threatened, nervousness, cautiousness and being alert of danger
  • Personal question and even sharing person experiences of ex does not mean she’s interested in you in a romantic way. It means she just her sharing her experiences and loading you with her history, for emotional support or to just feel better about herself.
  • Laughing at your jokes and with you doesn’t mean she’s interested in you in a romantic. It can mean this is her personality or she enjoys company.
  • When she touches you, hugs or or flirts, it doesn’t mean she’s interested in you. She can be a touchy type of person and very sociable warm person who likes to make other people at ease with her.
  • When she copies what you do, in sitting or moves, it doesn’t mean she is into you romantically. Rather she does it as a way to connect for conversation wise and to lower maybe her own nerves down a little.
  • When she changes her tonality of her voice. It doesn’t mean she is romantically attracted to you because it could be she wants to flirt, have fun, make herself feel she can get a man’s attention but that is it.
So signals you think is attraction can also be erroneous type of signals that happen unconsciously.
They can mean something totally different.
So what do you do when you know this now?
Go for the ballsy direct approach
  1. You see a woman you are attracted to
  2. You immediately approach and show intent
  3. You let her know you desire her by behaving in a sexual aggresive manner i.e. indirect sexualisation/flirting, playful, fun.
  4. Behave in a manner in which she now must show her true face
  5. If she doesn’t say OH YES move on. Let her go. In fact, don’t even worry about it. The moment you are direct she probably dissappear. Maybe faint from shock because there’s a man who just showed he knows what he wants and says it without apologising for it.
  6. When I get a no or silence, or playing hard to get, I am gone. I don’t look for her. I don’t check her social media. I don’t bother with her again. I am done. Moving on. Good bye. Have a nice sweet life.
  7. If she says OH YEAH, then we have finally left the bullshit and games, and show mutual respect and attraction for each other. When two people who intent fast, it shows integrity, it shows maturity and it shows to each oher they really want to move forward and connect at a deeper romantic level.
Looking for signals is a passive -aggressive way for men who fear rejection, who fear showing vulnerability because they are worried and fear the sting of rejection.
Men who approach and show intent immediately understand the meaning of growth, what it does for them and know that when a woman is not interested, it doesn’t define him. It just shows the attraction isn’t mutual and he moves on.
He found out what he needs to know and he’s not interested in platonic or giving emotional support. He’s moving on.
The process is simple.
Don’t make it difficult as it already is due to social norm rules, myths, fallacies and signals that do nothing but frustrate you to no end.
It also makes room to abuse your time and mess you around.”
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#socialize
#relationships
#attitudes
#romance

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Dates

  Who has had a bad date? It doesn’t feel good to be dumped. It happened to me during my junior prom. My date was a real party girl, I found out the hard way.” Your date is constantly checking her phone. She is waiting for any kind of reason to ditch you and return to her safe house, away from you. Sometimes girls even enact a plan where they get a friend to call them in the middle of a date with an “emergency” so they can leave the date early. Other girls will just text the friends they’d rather hang out with or the guys they’d rather be on dates with. If the phone makes many cameos on your dates, it’s over before it even began.”Does any of this sound familiar to anyone?
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Celebrate Life

  
   When is the right
time to celebrate life? Who spends time enjoying every day as if it was
the last day on the planet? What would you do if you knew today was going to be
the last time that you were going to be alive. What is the one thing among
all that you have done in your life that would fulfill your lifelong dreams? Celebration
of a full life lived is the best kind. If you knew that you had lived
your life to the fullest, there wouldn’t be a moment that you would try to do
that last thing. You would have done everything that you wanted to during our life
and it would be time to move on without any regret. How many people really live
their life to the fullest every day?
Would you call this life,  軍事网 ?
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New Love

   What is new love to
you? What is love to you? Some say that love is stronger than death; I agree
that love is good. What is new love all about anyway? Meeting someone new is a
wonderful thing that happens to people that are fortunate enough to have it
happen to them. When you get to change your life with a special meeting you
never regret it.Where do you go to meet special people? I believe that it is
destiny that brings you to a place that has all the wonderful people that
change people’s lives forever for the good. Grooming your life to be ready for
the change is just as important to change as the change itself.

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