Admit it: this is how you look/positioned right now.
Are you at least partially hunched over? It’s almost a certainty – nearly everyone has bad posture and it is exacerbated by our constantly online/digital life.
Being regularly slumped/hunched-over visits a cluster of cascading bad consequences to your life, including negative impact on your long-term spinal health. For now, let’s focus on appearances:
Want to look better in seconds? Straighten up your body.
For those of you more visually-oriented, imagine you’re a puppet with a string attached to the top of your head. The puppeteer who is controlling “you” pulls gently until your feet are barely grazing the floor – that’s the correct position for both health as well as maximizing your own height and personal presence. And since most people (including handsomer men than you) have bad posture, you can easily set yourself apart and place yourself in the top 10 percent of men in most rooms, just by the act of maintaining a good posture.
Are you sitting or standing straighter as a result of reading the last paragraphs? We don’t know each other, yet I just improved your looks buy a couple of points.
2. Weight Lifting
The human body is a remarkable machine – the harder you work it, the more beautiful it becomes. You don’t need to commit to a hardcore bodybuilder schedule to reap the benefits – two to three times a week of weights that push you to muscle failure after 5~10 repetitions will be sufficient.
Newbie men tend to fixate on upper body, but the real benefits come when you incorporate deadlifts, squats and lower-body training to your regimen – a strong core and well-developed glutes/legs will help you default to a healthy posture (as mentioned in 1. above) and you will “catch” yourself less frequently in a bad slouching posture if you are regularly lifting and pushing your muscles and training them to failure on a regular basis.
The further to the right you go on this gradient, the better your life gets.
Once you develop a decent level of musculature, you will realize an awesome passive benefit: muscle consume more calories, and so a more-muscular “you” has a baseline metabolism at a much higher level, so even while you’re resting, you’re going to burn more fat than a sedentary version of you.
Weightlifting – the gift that keeps on giving!
3. Cultivate/Amplify/Develop Gender-Atypical Interests & Hobbies
As a guy, have you had the experience of being in a stereotypically-male environment (gun range, mixed-martial arts dojo, sports-car track-day event, video game tournament, etc.) and see a woman show up alone, and with her own gear to participate (i.e. she’s not the +1 girlfriend of some guy, who dragged her there)?
If you’re like me, your reaction is probably some variant of “OMG, that is so awesome, I need to meet/know more about her!”
Jessica is a Swedish sports car enthusiast who owns and races a modified Porsche 911 Turbo (997 variant), and crushes very impressive lap times; she almost certainly can outdrive you. Yes, those are three pedals you see there – she drives a stick-shift. Line form that way, fellas. There are thousands of Porsche enthusiasts who want to marry her ahead of you.
Whatever level of attractiveness she commands is amplified by a factor of ten – her rarity in an arena that is stereotypically and overwhelmingly male raises the social-currency value of her existing beauty by a massive multiplier.
That’s great for her, but what does all that mean to you?
Be the male version of Porsche-racing Jessica.
Sure, you’re into mixed-martial arts, video games, fast cars, sports and shooting guns. So is every other guy.
Don’t give up your hobbies, but take some time to feel out activities that you can genuinely enjoy, that most men don’t take the initiative to explore.
Salsa dancing. Poetry slams. Book-reading clubs. Cooking classes. Wine-tasting tours.
Me, I have a little dog and the small-dog meetups are basically filled with dog-loving young women and gay men. Nearly zero competition.
As the lone (or minority) male in an otherwise female-dominated arena, your contextual attractiveness skyrockets, and if you can talk intelligently about the subject matter (i.e. you’re not there just to meet girls), you set yourself far, far apart from your male competitors (who fill their days playing video games/shooting guns/racing cars with each other, while complaining about how they can’t meet any women).
And by the time you’re reading this sentence, many of you are back to your default slouch so I will repeat the advice I gave at the top:
Sit up straight! 😀 ”